Monday, June 23, 2008

The Personal is Political

You may remember the phrase “the personal is political”. This was written by Robin Morgan in a 1970 book entitled “Sisterhood is Powerful”. I carried that book around for my entire freshman year of high school. The phrase was coined to express that what was happening in women's personal lives was a political issue – from sharing household responsibilities to the lack of equal pay for equal work.

The phrase works in both directions. The political can also be very personal. The political action of leaders like Gavin Newsom has made possible this very personal experience of a wedding.

I can remember starting to deny marriage to myself when I was only in grade school. Others imagined themselves in white gowns and even started "hope chests". I scoffed at them. Children know without being told what is forbidden. I knew I would never grow up to be a bride, so why waste time dreaming about it? I refused to go to the prom, because it seemed like a wedding on training wheels.

Despite my generally optimistic nature, I could not believe that my family, my community or my country would ever give a stamp of approval on being gay. When I met Barb in 1982, I still could not imagine that our relationship could be anything we celebrated publicly. It was years before everyone in both of our families knew that we were in a committed relationship.

In 2004, when marriage was first dangled in front of us as a possibility, we jumped at the opportunity. After getting that license, we couldn’t believe how different it made us feel. We felt more connected and valued than we ever had before. Then, the marriage was annulled and we were disappointed but also defiant.

Now, we have finally achieved a level of equality. We are personally very happy and politically very committed to making sure that this marriage can never be annulled. The measure on the fall ballot that would deny the basic right of marriage to others must fail.

Friday, June 20, 2008


It's the first day of summer, or "midsummer", which makes no sense if you think about it for more than a minute. How can it be the "first" and the "mid" all at once?

Wiktionary is not much help:
midsummer (plural midsummers)
1-The period around the summer solstice; about 21st June in the northern hemisphere.
2-The first day of summer
3-The middle of summer.

Well, it is the longest day of the year. Of that we can be sure. Today, they found water (ice, really) on Mars. It's HOT even in San Francisco. The Mississippi is flooding, the West is drying out, and yet somehow we all keep on keepin' on.

This seems to be the week of spending money. The car needed repairs and a 90,000 mile tuneup. The windows needed shades. The camera broke and had to be replaced. Oh, and on top of it all, we are having a wedding! which has to be the most expensive thing to do in the world. New clothes, catering, cake, rental furniture, flowers, plants, extra house cleaning, etc. But we are spending with joy in our hearts, because, my goodness, who ever expected to be having a wedding! And our family members will be here and our hearts will be full.

Friday, June 13, 2008

We Do, We Did, and We're Doing it Again

You could say we got married on May 16, 1983 when we moved in together.

You could say we got married on October 11, 1987 during a ceremony / protest action on the steps of the IRS during the March on Washington for Gay and Lesbian Rights.

You could say we got married on February 14th, 1991 when the city of San Francisco set up the first registry for Domestic Partners, and we were first in line.

You could say we got married on February 14th, 1999, when we registered as Domestic Partners with the State of California.

You could even say we got married when we got married - on February 15th, 2004, when Mayor Gavin Newsom authorized San Francisco City Hall to allow same-sex marriages. That is, until the State Supreme Court annulled our marriage a few months later.

The California State Supreme Court must have felt bad about that decision. They have changed their mind!

On June 27th, WE'RE GETTING MARRIED AGAIN! It's been 25 years since we fell in love. Don't you think it's about time?

Wednesday, June 04, 2008


The concept:
1. Type your answer to each of the questions below into Flickr Search.
2. Using only the first page of results, and pick one image.
3. Copy and paste each of the URLs for the images into Big Huge Lab's Mosaic Maker to create a mosaic of the picture answers.

The questions:
1. What is your first name?
2. What is your favorite food? right now?
3. What high school did you go to?
4. What is your favorite color?
5. Who is your celebrity crush?
6. What is your favourite drink?
7. What is your dream vacation?
8. What is your favourite dessert?
9. What do you want to be when you grow up?
10. What do you love most in life?
11. What is one word that describes you?
12. What is your flickr name?